Hebrews 13:4

I have been such a slacker with this blog, but I am surprised I have made it this far without giving up. I have no self discipline, but mark my words, I'm learning. Instead of writing in here, I have been reading some really awesome book, which still doesn't excuse me not writing. But anyway, while I'm on the subject of this awesome book, I might as well tell y'all a little bit about it. It's called Marriable by Hayley and Michael Dimarco, and I have learned more from it than any other book I have ever read (besides the bible). I have learned so much about sexual purity, ways to avoid seeming desperate and why we absolutely positively should not make friends with the opposite sex. I have also gotten a little more insight into a guy's mind. The more I read, the more thankful I have such a loving, God fearing boyfriend. He is a rare find - a 26 year old who doesn't pressure me, control me (that's right), or put me down. I can tell he really does want the best for me through his actions. Anyway, let me share a little of what I have been reading...

-Women lie to themselves (for validation); men lie to others (for admiration and sex)
-Sex will not make a man love you more - it will only put off the important questions until the heat dies down (do I see myself starting a family with her, etc)
-Romance is a tool men use. Relationships are happier when women expect less romance, and men use the romance tool more.
-When a man and woman have sex, the woman isn't doing herself any favors when it comes to finding the one.
-Having sex before marriage is like reading the last chapter in a book. No matter how much you get to know the other person after sex, you know how it's going to end, hence less of a thrill.
-Chick flicks, romance novels, etc is porn for women. Just like male porn instills an unreal fantasy for men, chick flicks and romance books instill an unreal fantasy of the perfect man for women. The more time you spend in reality, the less likely you'll be to fall for the trap.
-Porn = desperation
-Save friendships for same sex, and love for the opposite sex.

I could go on and on, since I am so stoked out about this book. Maintaining a healthy relationship is always fascinating to me, so this book is really hard to put down. It is helping me to really respect the male gender. Us girls are far too confusing, poor guys.

How ironic I am listening to Darren Hayes right now. His music, much like chick flicks and romance novels, is porn for women.

Anyway, verse of the night.

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; the fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
-Hebrews 13:4

To help me strive for sexual morality. There are just so many reasons to be pure, and so few not to be. God was SO smart to tell us to save sex for marriage. It's difficult but it's going to be soo worth it :) It's amazing that people think of God as a god of rules. He commands certain things of us to prevent heartache and dysfunctional relationships. He really is the epitome of a loving father.

-Kristen

And for fun-
"If the world was perfect, I would only want to see your scars."
-Darren Hayes :)